What it’s really like to date someone with Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS).
I’m looking good today! To bad my body feels otherwise. Every time I stand up everything goes black, definitely going to pass out, yep. Oh goodness, lets squat down, perhaps my vision will come back, nope not coming back maybe I will lay down… Ohhhh come on please pass!!!! I can’t do this in public!
POTS. It’s great. Not. We look great. Well, we are told that all time. It’s rather aggravating on days you don’t feel well.
I feel like when you are dating with POTS, POTS has to be like the disclaimer. For instance, Hey, ya my names Katelyn, Im 28, ya I live on my own ( just moved out on my own 1 year ago but thats a minor detail right?), I have POTS. Oh what is that? No No No its not marijuana. Its a dysfunctional nervous system…. Then you give your brief description of what POTS is and then have to do the “ya if thats a deal breaker, I understand”.
Most of the time men don’t care. Probably because well… they aren’t always thinking clear and by that I mean they aren’t always thinking with their brain inside their skull but with the brain that lives inside their pants. Don’t take that personal. But lets be real. Men want to get laid. Ladies. You look great. You don’t look like you have POTS.
So, they date us. We push, we over do…. we pay. Then we need down days, then we start working them into the “I don’t feel very well”. Telling them, “Hey go without me, its totally fine”. Ya, totally not fine… but Im going to take a minute and pretend tell you it is fine. Because we are used to being alone. Now, Im sure there are some great guys out there, who have no problem staying in. I just have yet to meet “said” guy.
Thoughts that go through my mind about dating
Don’t mind me while I just sit here on the bottom of the tub babe….No Im not staring at your bum. Do you think you could turn the water down a bit? Your cold? Well Im going to pass out…. remember that thing I told you about called POTS? Never mind… Im going to get out… Why? Oh because Im done showering…. Okay the truth is because its too hot in here, oh so now you will turn it down? Okay well Im going to stand up now… Babe, Babe, Im going to passout…. *Passout* in shower… such an epic relationship building moment…. naked.
“ Don’t mind me and my sexy nude color stockings ”
“ No No, this isn’t lingerie! Its my compression hose! “
“ You like my spandex eh? You’d never know they are compression pants! “
Yea… I think i’ll just stick to not dating for now.